Living with a Teenager

A book that many parents have found helpful:
‘Get Out Of My Life – but first take me and Alex into town’ 
By Tony Wolf & Suzanne Franks
Pub: Profile Books 

Living with a teenager can be exciting, fun and interesting and can be exhausting, confusing and frustrating!

If you have any concerns your first point of contact at Alton College is your son or daughter’s Personal Tutor.

Here on the Parent’s Page we share some sources of advice, information and reassurance that you might find useful.

There are many different websites for specific or general difficulties. We include a few here for some of the more common problems.

Teenagers: www.gotateenager.org.uk  For anyone with a teenager in their life. Join for parent-to-parent support, informal advice, useful information and a community of other parents dealing with the same issues as you.

Parenting:  www.parentlineplus.org.uk   Family life today is complicated and Parentline Plus understands. The leading national charity providing help and support to anyone caring for children – parents, grandparents, step-parents, relatives – for families living together as well as apart. They have a highly trained team of parents who understand the challenges; advising families on issues big and small to ensure that life is better for all.

Parenting Young Adolescents: www.abcdparenting.org A website based on the Australian ABCD Parenting Young Adolescents Program, giving information and support to parents and professionals. The ABCD program offers strategies and ideas to help parents raising an adolescent, and come up with solutions to problems.

Mental health: www.youngminds.org.uk YoungMinds is committed to improving the mental health and emotional well-being of all children and young people. They provide a confidential phone helpline if you are worried about your son or daughter.

Anxiety:  www.anxietyuk.org.uk/about-anxiety/young-people-and-anxiety     Recent research suggests that as many as 1 in 6 young people will experience an anxiety condition at some point in their lives. Some students are anxious about starting college. We understand that and have many interventions to help them feel at home quickly. You may also find this site useful.

Depression: www.studentdepression.org This site has been developed in consultation with students who have been affected by depression, low mood or suicidal thoughts.

General advice for young people:  www.getconnected.org.uk  Get Connected offers information and a free UK-wide email and telephone helpline for young people. Helpline staff have access to a comprehensive database of information about counselling and all sorts of specific services, such as drug and alcohol services or those focused on particular issues like sexuality or self harm. They will talk things through and help you find the appropriate service in your local area. Calls are free from most mobiles and they can connect you to most of the services for free too.

Relationships and sexual health: http://www.nhs.uk The NHS site ‘Living Well’ has articles about peer pressure in relationships. www.letstalkaboutit.nhs.uk/ is the guide for sexual health services for Hampshire.

Family life:  www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-family-life-and-parenting  Relate offer their sister website - Relate for Parents & Families. Free online relationship advice for you and your family.

Drugs:  www.talktofrank.com Your children will already have heard about drug use. They may have seen drug users on TV or newspapers. As they get older and become more independent they may be offered drugs. We cannot shield them from ever having any contact but we can be well informed ourselves and encourage our children to think carefully about this.

Online safety: Expert information to help children and young people stay safe online parentinfo.org